The gentlemen's book of etiquette, and manual of politeness: being a complete guide for a gentleman's conduct in all his relations towards society Hartley, Cecil B. From the best French, English and American authorities.
MAN was not intended to live like a bear or a hermit, apart from others of his own nature, and, philosophy and reason will each agree with me, that man was born for sociability and finds his true delight in society.
Society is a word capable of many meanings, and used here in each and all of. Society, par excellence; the world at large; the little clique to which he is bound by early ties; the companionship of friends or relatives; even society tete a tete with one dear sympathizing soul, are pleasant states for a man to be in. Taking the word in its most extended view, it is the world; but in the light we wish to impress in our book it is the smaller wcrld of the changing, pleasant intercourse of each city or town in which our reader may chance to abide.
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A judicious friend is the best guide; but how is the young aman to know whom to choose? When at home this friend Li easily selected; but in this country, where each bird leaves the parent nest as soon as his wings will bear him safely up, there are but few who stay amongst the friends at home. Next then comes the instruction from books.
True a book will not fully supply the place either of experi. You go into society from mixed motives; partly for pleasure, recreation after the fatigues of your daily duties, and partly that you may become known. In a republican country where one man's opportunities for rising are as good as those of an. You may set it down as a rule, that as you treat the world, so the world will treat you.
Carry into the circles of' society a refined, polished manner, and an amiable desire to please, and it will meet you with smiling grace, and lead you forward pleasantly along the flowery paths; go, on the contrary, with a. You will find in every circle that etiquette holds some sway; her rule is despotic in some places, Matures fat 77379 others mild, and easily set aside.
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Remember, however, "once a gentleman always a gentleman," and be sure that you can so carry out the rule, that in your most careless, joyous moments, when freest from the restraints of etiquette, you can still be recognizable as a gentleman by every act, word, or look. Avoid too great a restraint Lady want casual sex Ensign manner. Stiffness is not politeness, and, while you observe every rule, you may appear to heed.
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Such discussions lead almost invariably to irritating differences of opinion, often to open quarrels, and a coolness of feeling which might have been avoided by dropping the distasteful subject as soon as marked differences of opinion arose. It is but one out of many that can discuss either political or religious differences, with candor and judgment, and yet so far control his language and temper as to avoid either giving or taking offence. In their place, in circles which Divorced womens seeking sex from local met for such discussions, in a tete a tete conversation, in a Mwm looking for lady fwb party oDf gentlemen where each is ready courteously to listen to the others, politics may be discussed with perfect prop!
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Retain, if you will, a fixed political opinion, yet do not parade it upon all occasions, and, above all, do not endeavor to force others to agree with you. Listen calmly to their ideas upon the same subjects, and if you cannot agree, differ politely, and while your opponent may set you down as a bad politician, let him be obliged to admit that you are a 32162 discreet sex. Wit and vivacity are two highly important ingredients in the conversation of a man in polite society, yet a straining for effect, or forced wit, is in excessively bad taste.
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You may wound where you meant only to amuse, and remarks which you mean only in for general applications, may be construed into personal affronts, so, if you have the gift, use it wisely, and not too freely.
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It will never do to be ignorant of the names and approximate ages of great composers, especially in large cities, where music is so highly appreciated and so common a theme.
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But this applies to every topic. To have only one or two subjects to converse on, and to discourse rather than talk on them, is always ill-bred, whether the theme be literature or horseflesh.
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Nothing is more tedious or disheartening than a perpetual,'Yes, just so,' and nothing. Conversation must never be one-sided.
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Then, again, the reason enables us to support a fancy or an opinion, when we are asked why we think so. To reply,'I don't know, but still I think so,' is silly and tedious. I mean that which we learn first of all things, yet often have not learned fully when death eases us of the necessity-the art of speaking our own language. What can Greek and Latin, French and German be for us in our every-day life, if we have not acquired this?
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Speech is the gift which distinguishes man from anirmals, and makes society possible. HIe has but a poor appreciation of his high privilege as a human being, who neglects to cultivate,' God's great gift of speech. The man who takes up nothing but a newspaper, but re it to think, Online adult dating websites ladies de Savannah sex deduct conclusions from its premises, and form a judgment on its opinions, is more fitted for society than he, who having all the current literature and devoting his whole time to its perusal, swallows it all without digestion.
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At the same time an acquaintance with the best current literature is necessary to modern society, and it is not sufficient tD have read a book without being able to pass a judgment upon it.
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You may forget your l,atin, Greek, French, German, and Mathematics, but if you firequent good company, you will never be allowed to forget that you are a citizen of the world.
He will discuss with frank simplicity the topics started by others, and endeavor to avoid starting such as they will not feel inclined to discuss.
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To be a good listener is as indispensable as to be a good talker, and it is in the character of listener that you can most readily detect the man who is accustomed to good society.
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